Violence Against Women in India
As a counsellor, it is my observation that deep disturbance and disharmony is created between marital partners due to domestic violence in India. There are numerous stories of women who trapped in abusive relationships and their never intolerable plights at the hands of husbands and the extended family members. There are various reasons cited for such violence against women, beginning from the simple reasons that there is excess salt in the dish to the issues of dowry.
One of the major issue in marital counselling in India is domestic violence, mostly men verbally or physically abusing their wives. Many of the time the abused women(and men) keep the issue as a secret one in order to protect social acceptance and respect in the society.
I would like to share a real incident happened in one of my friend's life. Her life was normal at the initail stage after marriage for 3 months. Her husband was in need of money and he demanded dowry again after marriage. Her husband used to treat her like a slave at home by Battering, verbal abusing, etc... She never shared this with their parents or friends till their relationship ends. She kept the issue as a secret. Finally this issue ends in her death.
Not only in rural areas, it is also happening in cities. Well educated women too hide these kind of issues. From my observation, women has to bring out this issues at the inital stage not at the critical stage.In spite of these realities there is conscious and unconscious denial of the seriousness of this situation in the Indian society.
Domestic Violence Act is there to prevent and conserve women's life, but very little are aware of this Act. Women of India, be aware of domestic violences. Verbal, emotional, sexual and physical violence diminish the quality of marital relationship and deeply disturbs the peaceful life.
Violence dies when it ceases to evoke response from its object. Mahatma Gandhi.
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I don't think much of men who beat on their wives, let alone kill them. If you can't get along, get a divorce for crying out loud.
Being divorced beats the heck out of being dead or a murder. So good for both parties involved.
It's either not as prevelent as it was in the 60's and 70's or, people are better at hiding it. I don't believe it's as easy to hide these days as it used to be. Women are no longer confined to the house and kept barefoot and pregnant. Many men down here however do still view their women as property as they were taught to do by their fathers and grandfathers. Some traditions are stubbornly held onto for generations by weak minded ignorant animals. It's a well understood fact that when you keep the educational levels intentionally low, you end up with this kind of mentality. Some traditions need to be gotten rid of in my opinion and ignorance is one of them.
Abuse of any sort is by all means sad to hear about. Getting women to speak out and do something about changing such behaviors can be difficult since their self esteem tends to be beaten out them also. I do know a man here in the US who got divorsed due to his exwife's violence towards him. Are there any groups in India to help these women of abuse?
HI, Sad to here about this kind abuse. But in India women are mostly abused by men. Getting Divorce is very easy and my opinion is if this divorce becomes more in number How to live peacefully? Abusing behaviour must b removed.How?